It's 4:00am & I have a sick little 2 yr old!

I feel so sad when my little guy is sick. Sitting her just holding him & I feel so helpless. He may be sick & it's really hard to deal with while Steven is out of town but I can be thankful he is not terminally ill. I can't imagine with mothers go through. Not only would it be hard on a mom but a whole entire family. How to deal with that? I'm sure you eventually you learn how to & figure outt how to cope but just to think about it makes me just that more thankful in the really TIRING, stressful, tough times like these for me. Well hopefully we will find some comfort so we can rest because not only is Camden sick, I am as well. Oh the joys of motherhood.

Called to be Mothers

From: Jerry Maguire (Tom Cruise)

"I’m out here for you! You don’t
know what it’s like to be me out
here for you. It is an up-at-dawn
pride-swallowing siege that I will
never fully tell you about!"




He may have been talking there about the pitfalls of being a sports agent, but I tell you, it hits home – for me, maybe not you – for being a mother ( and wife too in some ways)!
There are days like this where I question what I do and where my Me-hood in Parenthood is under all the pressures,chores,and responsibilities. I think alot of times this runs through people's mind 'You mean that's all you do? That's all?(which is quite funny to me for many reasons)
As a mother, Your life is given to fight for the ones you love and to take ESPECIALLY to take care of people, small ones to begin with, whose wants never seem to ever, ever end. Sometimes when your days seem to be solely taken up with wiping things, dishes and sinks, floors, lysoling (-which is my favorite thing to do..lol) little runny noses and big, slow tears, and in ALL THIS you wonder about what fulfillment is supposed to mean for you. You wonder about being, besides the perfect wife and mother the hostess with the mostest, creative, intellectually productive, beautiful, and slowly your dreams seem to evaporate. You've been listening to what they're telling us nowadays about how important it is to find yourself, express yourself and assert yourself which is great to do but have to remember what is desired of us. Maybe you're thinking that you're nothing more than somebody's wife and somebody else's mother, and what kind of a life is that and you start doubting not only yourself but everyting in your life? Well, It makes me think of this tribe I read about in the southern Sudan called Nuers where a woman's name is changed not when she becomes a wife, but when she becomes a mother. She is manpuka, mother of puka. Among the Nuers, being someone's mother is what makes a woman's life meaningful. THEN you think about
2,000 years ago there was another young woman of the Jewish tribe of Judah who understood that truth. The world has never forgotten her,MARY the MOTHER of Jesus, because she was willing to be known as simply someone's mother.

Motherhood is a calling. It's a womanly calling. And let's not be cowed by those who extinguish the light and joy of sexuality by trying to persuade us to forget words like manly and womanly. At the beginning of time when God made the first man and the first woman in His image, He put both under the divine command to be fruitful.
The woman's obedience to that command meant self-giving. First, she gave herself to her husband. He initiated. She responded. Then she gave herself for the life of her child. A woman knows in the deepest regions of her being that it's this very self-giving for which she was made, single or married. Her level of maturity is measured by how much she gives to others. If she's married, she gives herself to her husband and she receives. If she's a mother, she loses her life in her child and mysteriously she finds it. A woman knows that no one can really say where the giving ends and the receiving starts.

It's no wonder we're confused when urged to look for some better or higher vocation in which to prove our personhood. No wonder we're distressed to be subjected to male standards or told that the notion of femininity and masculinity are obsolete. Old-fashioned notions they are indeed, but they weren't ours to begin wit!!!. They were God's. He planned the whole system, and it's God Himself who calls. He calls some to be single, some married people to be childless, but He calls most women to be M O T H E R S. There are, the Bible tells us, differences of gifts and they're all given according to God's grace. If our calling is to be mothers, let's be mothers with all our hearts-gladly, simply, and humbly, like that little peasant girl Mary, who spoke for all women for all time when she said,

'Behold, the handmaid of the Lord. Be it unto me according to Thy word.'"

Discipline Questionnaire- Dr. Phil

Part One

1. My children can predict the consequences of their actions with a high degree of accuracy.

2. My children know they have to perform certain things they don't want to do in order to get access to things they do want to do.

3. My partner and I present a united front regarding rules and discipline to our children.

4. I adjust my communications to my child to his/her level of understanding, taking his/her age into account.

5. I am friendly and loving with my children yet I have established myself clearly as a respected authority figure in their lives.

Part Two

1. I choose rewards and punishments based on what works.

2. I reward my child for good behavior.

3. I parent without guilt.

4. I am sensitive to not over-scheduling my child.

5. I render discipline without anger.


Scoring: If you answered "false" to any questions in part one or part two, there are things you can do to more effectively discipline your child.

Advice
# Avoid some common parenting mistakes.
# You may be using forms of discipline that are ineffective at your child's age.


From The Show

* Are You Disciplining Your Child the Wrong Way?

Related Links

* Biggest Mistakes Parents Make
* Questions to Ask Before Spanking
* What to Do When You Disagree on Discipline
* Listening to Your Child's Bad Behavior
* Five Steps to Disciplining Your Child
* The Pros and Cons of Spanking
* Stop Spoiling Your Kids



http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/255

Just A Mom

Just A Mom

A woman, renewing her driver's license at the County Clerk 's office,
was asked by the woman recorder to state her occupation.

She hesitated, uncertain how to classify herself.

"What I mean is, " explained the recorder,
"do you have a job or are you just a ....?"

"Of course I have a job," snapped the woman.

"I'm a Mom."

"We don't list 'Mom' as an occupation,
'housewife' covers it,"
Said the recorder emphatically.

I forgot all about her story until one day I found myself
in the same situation, this time at our own Town Hall.
The Clerk was obviously a career woman, poised,
efficient, and possessed of a high sounding title like,
"Official Interrogator" or "Town Registrar."

"What is your occupation?" she probed.

What made me say it? I do not know.
The words simply popped out.
"I'm a Research Associate in the field of
Child Development and Human Relations."

The clerk paused, ball-point pen frozen in midair and
looked up as though she had not heard right.

I repeated the title slowly emphasizing the most significant words.
Then I stared with wonder as my pronouncement was written,
in bold, black ink on the official questionnaire.

"Might I ask," said the clerk with new interest,
"just what you do in your field?"

Coolly, without any trace of fluster in my voice,
I heard myself reply,
"I have a continuing program of research,
(what mother doesn't)
In the laboratory and in the field,
(normally I would have said indoors and out).
I'm working for my Masters, (first the Lord and then the whole family)
and already have four credits (all daughters).
Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities,
(any mother care to disagree?)
and I often work 14 hours a day, (24 is more like it).
But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers
and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than just money."

There was an increasing note of respect in the clerk's voice as she
completed the form, stood up, and personally ushered me to the door.

As I drove into our driveway, buoyed up by my glamorous new career,
I was greeted by my lab assistants -- ages 13, 7, and 3.
Upstairs I could hear our new experimental model,
(a 6 month old baby) in the child development program,
testing out a new vocal pattern.
I felt I had scored a beat on bureaucracy!
And I had gone on the official records as someone more
distinguished and indispensable to mankind than "just another Mom."
Motherhood!

What a glorious career!
Especially when there's a title on the door.

YouTube - Beyonce Sweet Dreams Live at MTV Europe Music Awards 2009 Berlin HQ

YouTube - Beyonce Sweet Dreams Live at MTV Europe Music Awards 2009 Berlin HQ

Fruit Of The Spirit

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The little things are- Amazing

Real Quick before I do dinner;
Caden and I spent the day together today doing different things that he enjoyed. I learned a big thing about him today though. I learned something that he listens so deeply & I thought he wasnt and I am not even sure what he really knows in his mind after today. So I guess he is a exactly like Steven with information and knowledge. You would never know what was in his mind until he was ready or needed to share it. Its amazing to me what he has listen to from me. It makes me in pure excitement to know he really cares what I am saying and listening. It was sharing things with me today that I told him 6 months ago. I love Caden- now I know that he is always listening and its amazing what he stores in his mind.
It was such a nice today to spend it with Caden alone because it means so much to him to give him my time and full attention sometimes. I am very proud and thankful for him. He keeps me going in so many ways. He loves like no other. I have doubts about who cares and loves me I promise I will always know Caden does because that is 1 thing he is very open with is his love. WEll, I guess I learn a few new things today.